Devo – Regret and Guilt

  • Pray!

  • Maybe – Joke: Why don’t oysters give money to charity? Because oysters are shellfish!

  • Maybe talk about hitting the home run and the third hit of the season

  • Talk about struggling with regret, would of / could of / should of. It’s one thing to learn from your mistakes and another to dwell on them.

    • Little things about doing better at my job, interacting better with people

    • Of passed sins committed, guilt of failure to share God’s word with people

    • That how could I as a Christian commit that sin, or not share with that person

  • In the past months, I’ve struggled with the death of my Son, not just in the way of loss but feeling guilt of his passing. Which honestly doesn’t make any sense to me because I know, I believe that God is sovereign, that God is in control. That His ways are not my ways and that He is righteous and just. But I still have struggled with these feelings.

  • I have “would of / could of / should of” the death of my son Theo.

    • What if knew we took him to the doctor or had him hospitalized?

    • Why didn’t I practice CPR more?

    • Why did I fail at protecting my son?

    • What sin did I do to cause this?

      • 2 Samuel 12 went from giving me peace about Theo’s passing in v23 where David asks “… Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me.” This part of scripture is why I believe that Theo is in Heaven. But later turned into a way of accusing myself (12:13-15) it talks about God striking the child because of David’s sin and I have been troubled by this.

      • Then I would have guilt about having guilt, that how could I feel this way after saying what I did when I spoke at Theo’s funeral?

So I get myself entangled in this web of guilt, regret, self-pity. This inward focus that benefits no one, that takes my eyes away from Christ and focuses on my ugliness. That instead of seeing Christ’s work in my life, that I am cleansed by the blood of Christ. I falter, try to take it back from God and cause myself to stumble. Where I should be following Hebrews 12:2, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of my faith.

So how do I deal with these feelings of regret and guilt in my life? What should be my response?

  • Simply go to God’s word, seek guidance form the Scriptures:

[Heb 4:12 NASB] 12 For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.

  • We can read God’s word and use it to discern if these thoughts, these feelings… are they from God, or not.

  • Not only can we read God’s word we can go to God directly, we can draw near to Him and receive His help and mercy:

[Heb 4:15-16 NASB] 15 For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin. 16 Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

  • Go to God and His word for everything.

  • If what we are struggling with is sin we are to repent:

[Act 3:19 NASB] 19 “Therefore repent and return, so that your sins may be wiped away, in order that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord;

[2Co 7:10 ESV] 10 For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death.

  • If we are in sin we need to repent and seek forgiveness. That we may be refreshed in the Lord.

  • When we are feeling guilt from prior sin that we have repented from:

    • There is such a thing of guilt, grief, sorrow, that is not from God.

[2Co 7:10 ESV] 10 For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death.

  • So if I have repented of this sin that is troubling me, I can be confident that God has wiped it away and have freedom from it and can rest in Him

[Psa 103:10-12 NASB] 10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor rewarded us according to our iniquities. 11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth, So great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him. 12 As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us.

[Jer 31:34 NASB] 34 “They will not teach again, each man his neighbor and each man his brother, saying, ‘Know the LORD,’ for they will all know Me, from the least of them to the greatest of them,” declares the LORD, “for I will forgive their iniquity, and their sin I will remember no more.”

  • We should not take our sin back from God. God paid for our sin, He takes our sin and removes it from us as far as the east is from the west. He will remember it no more. That we can have salvation without regret.

  • Do we not have a great God, a loving God. God gave Himself for us, once and for all. Not for anything we have done, quite the opposite, but because of His lovingkindness, His mercy, His Grace, for His Glory He redeems us.

  • What if these thoughts fiery darts are from Satan?

    • As Christians we do battle not in a traditional way, but in a spiritual way.

[Eph 6:12 HCSB] 12 For our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the world powers of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavens.

[2Co 10:3-5 NASB] 3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, 4 for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. 5 We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,

  • Paul writes in Ephesians 6 about the armor of God, tools we have in spiritual warfare:

[Eph 6:16-17 NASB] 16 in addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 And take THE HELMET OF SALVATION, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

  • Our faith can quench the fiery darts that Satan uses to attack us, confuse us, that causes doubt. We have the word of God to rightly discern, to learn the will of God. The Gospel is the power of God for salvation.

  • So in this battle, how can we prepare?

[Jas 4:7-8 NASB] 7 Submit therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. 8 Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

[Rom 12:2 NASB] 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.

[Psa 19:14 NASB] 14 Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O LORD, my rock and my Redeemer.

[Phl 4:8 NASB] 8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.


We will feel guilt and regret in our life. When we do we need to discern where these thoughts and feelings are coming from. Is there sin in our life? Is it spiritual warfare? Are we lacking in faith and trying to take our sin back from God?

If it is sin, repent! If it is spiritual warfare, seek God asking Him to bolster your faith that Satan’s fiery darts may be quenched. If it is past sins that you have repented from, know that God has forgiven you and that He does not remember them and that you can be refreshed by the Lord.

Meditate on God and His word. As Christians we are to be transformed, do not conform to this world. Dwell on what is good, right, pure. In all things focus on God and glorify God.


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